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'Til Death Do Us Part....
One Woman's Story of Facing the Reality
After
Clinging to the Dream
560 page Hard Cover Book
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When a relationship is at risk
or breaks up, it is so easy for couples to hold
each other responsible. Even when a relationship
ends in death, such blaming occurs. "What if,"
asks bestselling author Rene Yarnell, "we
entered our relationships realizing that they
have a life expectancy–some longer, some
shorter, some "'til death do us part"? It's
perfectly natural to want to prolong our
relationships, but all too often they define
their own boundaries, identifying the moments of
culmination and breakdown, not so unlike the
feebleness of old age signals impending death.
Here Yarnell tells the story of her own
fairytale romance–an emotionally-peaked
courtship and marriage that culminated in a
shattered relationship. After her own difficult
journey to come to terms with the breakup, she
reminds us that, of all the people we have come
to know or will ever know, there is something
extraordinarily special about those with whom we
share the emotional and sexual intimacies of
living together in marriage or an equally close
partnership. These relationships not only shape
our life story, but also the unfolding and
expansion of us as persons. It would be most
unfortunate if, at the ending of such shared
closeness, we found nothing to appreciate. The
merit of a relationship is not necessarily in
its lasting forever. Its value is in the journey
two people shared together.
Hers is a message of hope. Raising consciousness
that a new paradigm is needed as couples embrace
marriage, the author advocates for less focus on
blame and guilt should it end, and more
appreciation for the shared love and personal
growth that was experienced while together. The
objective is to emerge from our marital crises
more ready than ever to make sound
choices–either to renew and enhance our existing
unions or to move on, perhaps giving birth to
new relationships without the usual sense of
failure.
"What I had finally come to understand was that
the heartrending sadness resulting from a
relationship ending need not signal failure, but
can be the portal to an even deeper experience
of personal growth and a renewed or new
spiritual bonding. We can allow that pain to bog
us down in self-pity and prolonged misery or we
can choose to emerge with full appreciation for
the precious time we were given to share moments
of our lives with another person. Once ended, it
doesn't matter whether our love is reciprocated
or not. It doesn't matter if the warm memories
are mutual or not. It doesn't matter if the time
is for a moment or a week or a year or a decade
or a lifetime. What does matter is that we
shared part of ourselves with each other, and
the experience is raising one or preferably both
of us to an elevated capacity to love."
'Til Death Do Us Part... offers a lifeline to
anyone who is facing, or has faced, or will face
marital crisis, helping them transform feelings
of devastation into energy for renewal or the
decision to begin a new life.
Til Death Do Us Part...
By Rene Reid Yarnell
One Woman's Story of Facing the Reality After
Clinging to the Dream
560 page Hard Cover Book
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